Monday, January 08, 2007

Self Portrait Challenge- "Resolutions #2"

NO MORE DRAMA

I have made a FIRM resolution in 2007 that I will not get sucked into my children's drama. Both girls are each in crisis mode right now and it's only the 9th of January. The oldest (seen in photo) has lived her whole life in drama mode and my illness seemed to improve after she moved (got booted) out. My youngest has gotten into a pickle of her own making, but now that she has TK I tend to stress over her choices and she doesn't even live here.
I'm a mother who allows them to clean up their own bad choices BUT I have been a sounding board for all of it. I feel sucked dry and spent, especially when all advise falls on deaf ears. I want to be supportive emotionally but it's getting ridiculous.
They agreed to work on leaving me out of their drama for the sake of my health in 2007. To show her willingness to try, my oldest, acted out a typical venting scenario for this weeks SPC. My face says it all!

24 comments:

Turquoise CRO said...

lol Yes, Your face says it all, I HOPE YOU CAN stay out of the DRAMA! Cool tho, how you did that pic! all curvy and warped looking! Bravo Tammy! xo, Cinda

Turquoise CRO said...

O! I forgot, your daughter looks like she could be Elvis's daughter! in that pic!!! Is that you, Lisa Marie??? lol

Anonymous said...

Oh my, she does look like Lisa Marie!

I think this is a fantastic resolution, Tammy. Wishing you the best of luck and better health.

acumamakiki said...

I'm sorry you get sucked in, I will have to work hard at not doing that myself when my girl is older. This photo is brilliant though. (=

Kim Carney said...

oh, that can be big drama! Good luck ;)

pepektheassassin said...

Is that YOU, tammy??? I know so many people who have dramas over Christmas--I know we did. One daughter-in-law was mad at my husband (and I can understand WHY) and was going to stay home etc, not come to any of our houses...but then she got the flu and spent all CHristmas throwing up. Put a quick ending to that drama. My OTHER daughter-in-law...well, we won't go there. (But that's all better now, too)

Kiss him with my eyes, you say? Hm. Well, I might try that....

Nice Haiku
Too.

:D

melba said...

Wow! What an amazing picture.
I can relate. my Mom has no sounding board but me and she lives with my brother who is going through a nasty divorce and I have (on a rare occassion) not answered the phone when I see it is her because I am left DRAINED talking to her about someone elses problems!!!
I wish you Health and Joy in 2007 (and always!:)
XO,
Melba

Anonymous said...

Well, at least she's showing her willingness to try harder - love the pic (though of course, only because it's a reenactment, and all cool wavy gravy, the way you depicted it - and not an actual real life stress test, lol). Hope 2007 is a stress-free year for you and yours! XOXO

Deb R said...

That's a great resolution to make, Tammy! I love how you interpreted it in the photo too...great job!

Anonymous said...

I hope you have a drama-free year! I get enough of it from my 4-year-old, I can only imagine the stress of dealing with the drama of older/grown children.

Paris Parfait said...

The look on your face is priceless! I hope they leave you out of their dramas as much as possible - having a daughter (never mind two of them) isn't always easy!

rose colored glasses said...

I love the song with the post. Great! I was once a young lady so I can imagine ALL the drama you deal with.. I have boys so I am hoping I will be the only drama in our lives.

rose colored glasses said...

I love the song with the post. Great! I was once a young lady so I can imagine ALL the drama you deal with.. I have boys so I am hoping I will be the only drama in our lives.

Anonymous said...

Difficult to depend on others in order for you to live up to your resolution. Good luck with that! :-) Cool photo!

AscenderRisesAbove said...

a wonderful resolution. the image says it so well

holli said...

Oh my Dear Dear LORD. I don't know that I could have burst out laughing any harder this morning. The music - again with the music. Good luck to you on this one. I can tell you my mother is still living in our big worlds of drama. We've just brought in a new generation. It literally is All My Children.

I really try to leave my mom out of it, because I've seen how my sister has aged her. But I'm the secret agent in the family. And I can only control myself.

On a serious note. I hope this does work for you. I know how hard it is to absorb an entire family's drama. I could write a soap opera if I could reveal our true lives.

pepektheassassin said...

rose, don't count your blessings yet. I, too have only boys, and the drama is just as heavy! I could tell you about the weddings, oh, I should write a book!
Our dog threw up, one son went nuts and locked himself in the bathroom, their three-legged dog died, my husband got sick and had to go to bed, two other sons had a huge fight in front of the bride's family, the photographer kept thinking I was the groom's grandma--but it all came out ok the next day. The son in the bathroom came out and sang his song and escorted the bridesmaid, one dog got better, the other didn't, the others made up, my husband recovered.... (it's funnier in retrospect).

Anonymous said...

My poor mama--I think she's your mirror. Take heart,though, no one is as sage as a mother...

..no one.

sassy said...

Dearest Tammy~I bought the CD for this song!The photo sure does say it all; that's why it's an excellent photo because it conveys the feelings so well. Sorry you are going through all this with your kids. Isn't it so wonderful and simple when they are babies?! Happy 2007, sweetie. I know first hand it's hard to be patient and also that it will change and get better in time. Love ya~Sassy

Anonymous said...

really good resolution and portrait...i wish you all the luck with it, i hope they'll understand

Georgia said...

Ah! I love the photo Tammy :) And a great resolution as well.

xoxo
Georgia

Anonymous said...

Great photo! And boy can I relate to teen drama!

firstborn said...

you need to blast that mary j. blige song, aptly called, "NO MORE DRAMA!"...i happen to own her cd...& i play that song PRN!!!!!

Anonymous said...

LOL. That would be a tremendous gift for them to give you.

They will be very happy they did too.

When I look at pictures of my mom-and her grey hairs-knowing I brought them on a bit early it makes me a bit sad.

But the love a mama has for her kids makes it more tolerable than imagineable right?

XOXO